When people tell me "You have changed" I say "Thank you" and that is where the conversation ends.
The Lexsi that stands here today is a million times better than the one that was here 5 years ago, and is nowhere near as amazing as the Lexsi of tomorrow, so it always makes me laugh inside when people try and tell me I have changed like it is a bad thing. I was raised in lil' ol' Elkhart, Indiana, and I did not have much. When I was young I moved a lot, and my sophomore year of high school robbing banks and getting pregnant were more popular than graduating and going to college. That was my environment! Than my junior year of high school I was blessed to move away and go to a college prep school in Maryland. (Thank you Hunter family!) I went from seeing a fight everyday at school to girls riding horses. Half of the girls had never seen a fight but had been to rehab. I no longer had to worry about someone trying to fight me over nothing but I did have to learn to say no to the temptation of hard drugs.
I have been an athlete since I could walk, so drugs were never something I ever consider. But seeing some of the highest performing students and athletes take them, it made you wonder if they were really so bad. CHANGE. I had usually focused on avoiding fights (I was a part of a team all the time, and I never wanted to risk my position on the team), but now my attention went to avoiding drugs.Than, another move.
Tennessee. I have never heard the "N" word so much! People think Indiana is so racist, but in my 15 years of living there I only have had two incidents that really stick out to me as racist. Elkhart was a pretty mixed small city, (Well as far as black, whites, Mexicans) and my mother is white so it was just not something I really dealt with. But in Tennesee I heard little girls say "I hate black, I had refs blow their whistles if I would just go near the ball, while they would let me get smacked and scratched. I had a hard time in Tennessee, because in the other places I live I could avoid stuff (fights & drugs), but I could not avoid being half black. (Nor would I have wanted too) But I did change. I stopped being a people pleaser. I learned the first level of putting myself first. I finally understood that you can not please everybody. That sometimes people just are not going to like you. Than, another move.
College...in south Florida. Freshmen year brought my first real relationship, even though it was a terrible one. That probably brought my biggest change. I feel like I officially stopped being a girl than, and became a young woman. I learned that I would do crazy things for the one I love, BUT that I would never hold on to something that would threaten my life. I learned my limit. ( A very important lesson)
My Sophomore year I learned my favorite life lesson. (How to be happy) I had always found ways to have fun here and there, but I don't think I truly knew happiness until that spring semester of my second year of college. I had a guy that really cared about me, I had the best friends a girl could have, we were in Miami having the time of our lives with the amazing artist like Ne-Yo, Chris Brown, Lil Wayne, and the list goes on, school covered basically all living expenses, and my family and the fitness center kept money in my pockets. I had no worries. I have always been an optimistic person, but that time of my life was verification that being positive was worth it. I know there are plenty of people out there that have never experienced happiness in every aspect of there life at once, so I know I was blessed to have done so at such a young age. Than, another move.
Hollywood! The list of lessons I have learned here could and would go on and on for days, so I wont even begin to list them. But, I have defiantly let my self love grow, learned that there are some bad people in the world that just do not want good for other people, learned about paying bills, and learned that my mind and my thoughts control my destiny.
I learned to bite my tongue, I have learned to trust my instincts, I have learned to separate from people that are not good for me, I have learned that I can have true happiness, I have learned that I can truly be whatever I put my mind too, I have learned to befriend most any type of person, I have learned to put my self first without being selfish, I have changed!
Everyday some part of you should change. You have to learn something new everyday. The people that say "you've changed" like its a bad thing are usual the people in your life that you realized you do not need there in the first place. If you are always complaining about me and I hear about it, of course how I interact with you is going to change.
Sometimes you can become a worse person and it is always good to look in the mirror and make sure the refection you are looking at today is better than the one from the day before. If it is worse than work towards making it better everyday, but if it is better...stay in that path, and every time someone says you have changed smile and say "Thank you"
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!
Lexsi Lewis ... Mauh !!! xxx
Monday, October 31, 2011
Friday, October 28, 2011
The Key to Happiness? Be happy!
I was talking to my friend the other day, and she was telling me how unhappy she was and wanted to know my secret to happiness. It's simple....December 31st, 2009 I decide that from that day on I would be nothing but happy.
Saying it is one thing, believing it is the hard part...the important part.
You really have to put the thought in your head that you deserve nothing but happiness. Once you begin to focus on happiness you will attract situations and things to your life that make you happy.
Another important component to staying in a happy mindset is to be thankful for all the things you have. Stop focusing on what you do not have. If you always focus on what you don't have you're putting yourself in a mind set of disappointment. If all you have is one shirt and a pair of sandals, learn to love those items. Be happy to have that pair of shoes, because you could have less. Remember you could always have less than you have now...ALWAYS! Be grateful!
You also need to realize you and you alone are in complete control of your happiness. Do not wait for someone else to give you something, do not expect someone else to give you happiness. Find happiness in yourself. Go back to you childhood and think about the things that made you happy. Being outside, playing sports, drawing... Do not forget the things that use to make you smile. A few months ago I became a little unmotivated. I could not get out of this funk, but than I started playing basketball again, and it reminded me of all my prior accomplishments. More importantly it reminded me what it felt like to be happy.
Start smiling at strangers, show those teeth, say good morning/afternoon/night . The littlest things can create your greatest happiness.
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
Saying it is one thing, believing it is the hard part...the important part.
You really have to put the thought in your head that you deserve nothing but happiness. Once you begin to focus on happiness you will attract situations and things to your life that make you happy.
Another important component to staying in a happy mindset is to be thankful for all the things you have. Stop focusing on what you do not have. If you always focus on what you don't have you're putting yourself in a mind set of disappointment. If all you have is one shirt and a pair of sandals, learn to love those items. Be happy to have that pair of shoes, because you could have less. Remember you could always have less than you have now...ALWAYS! Be grateful!
You also need to realize you and you alone are in complete control of your happiness. Do not wait for someone else to give you something, do not expect someone else to give you happiness. Find happiness in yourself. Go back to you childhood and think about the things that made you happy. Being outside, playing sports, drawing... Do not forget the things that use to make you smile. A few months ago I became a little unmotivated. I could not get out of this funk, but than I started playing basketball again, and it reminded me of all my prior accomplishments. More importantly it reminded me what it felt like to be happy.
Start smiling at strangers, show those teeth, say good morning/afternoon/night . The littlest things can create your greatest happiness.
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
Thursday, October 27, 2011
Embrace Your Imperfections to become Perfect!
Stop hiding behind this person that you think you are suppose to be and just embrace who you are!!!
Think of your idol, your real world hero, your mentor. Now picture them having sex..... 98% of the time I bet you can't You have them on this pedestal or in this bubble, that they are perfect, that they do no wrong, but guess what....the people that you look up to are just as human as you are.
Almost everyone in America has had premarital sex, tried some form of drugs, lied to their best friend, cheated on their girlfriend, cheated on a test, picked on someone, thrown trash out the window, stolen something....the list goes on. People try so hard to hide their faults, but dont realize that their just living a normal life. People make stupid mistakes everyday....EVERY minute! So learn to embrace them. Learn from that bad experience and than move on. Dont go hide in a corner and start calling yourself "the dumbest person alive." You're not...you're human.
Now I'm not saying to go ahead and do whatever you want and to not let bad decisions affect you, because they should. You should take every "bad" experience and flip it into a "learning" experience. Admit your faults and try and right your wrongs (Karma will if you dont), but just dont let it keep you down. You can never redo that part of you life again so the faster you accept that you are blessed to be you (flaws and all) the happier and more fortunate you will be.
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
Think of your idol, your real world hero, your mentor. Now picture them having sex..... 98% of the time I bet you can't You have them on this pedestal or in this bubble, that they are perfect, that they do no wrong, but guess what....the people that you look up to are just as human as you are.
Almost everyone in America has had premarital sex, tried some form of drugs, lied to their best friend, cheated on their girlfriend, cheated on a test, picked on someone, thrown trash out the window, stolen something....the list goes on. People try so hard to hide their faults, but dont realize that their just living a normal life. People make stupid mistakes everyday....EVERY minute! So learn to embrace them. Learn from that bad experience and than move on. Dont go hide in a corner and start calling yourself "the dumbest person alive." You're not...you're human.
Now I'm not saying to go ahead and do whatever you want and to not let bad decisions affect you, because they should. You should take every "bad" experience and flip it into a "learning" experience. Admit your faults and try and right your wrongs (Karma will if you dont), but just dont let it keep you down. You can never redo that part of you life again so the faster you accept that you are blessed to be you (flaws and all) the happier and more fortunate you will be.
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
Look in the Mirror
Sometimes you need to go up to a mirror and have a serious conversation with yourself.
Why? Think I am crazy?
When you look at yourself in the mirror do you like what you see? Or are your arms to big, butt to baggy, and belly to round? Do you like your hairstyle, is your skin bad? Now that is the easy part. What about when you talk to yourself. Do you even care what you are talking about? Do you even have anything to talk about? Do you like what you see? Do you like what you hear?
Go ahead. Turn on the lights. Look at yourself for several moments.... now just talk to yourself.
Well, first of all I am not crazy, I am a little goofy but perfectly sane. But whats the point of this? To see if you even like yourself.
When you look at yourself in the mirror do you like what you see? Or are your arms to big, butt to baggy, and belly to round? Do you like your hairstyle, is your skin bad? Now that is the easy part. What about when you talk to yourself. Do you even care what you are talking about? Do you even have anything to talk about? Do you like what you see? Do you like what you hear?
This year I realized that I would complain about people not answering their phones, but I was the worst person when it came to answering my own. It is ssssssoooooo easy to see the flaws in other people, but pretty difficult for most people to see the flaws in themselves. That is why I recommend the excerise.
Go stand in the mirror. Have a conversation with yourself.
Do this on the regular, if you do not like what you see than change it. If you do not enjoy your conversation, get more hobbies. You should always be proud of how you look and who you are. I am not saying that you have to be a size 3 or a nun, but you should be able to look at yourself and smile...the most genuine smile that you have.
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
Dreams!!!
Dream.... Dream BIG!!!!
If you have a dream and already know how to accomplish it, than you are dreaming to small. A dream, wish, goal should be great. The best dreams are the ones that many would call impossible.
Never let where you are now, stop you from working towards where you will be tomorrow. Never let money be the reason you are not doing what you want. Where there is a will, there is a way, and you would be surprised who will open their arms on your journey to success and aid you once they see you are prepared and motivated. So get PREPARED!! Get MOTIVATED!!!
STOP WITH THE EXCUSES!!!! Instead of going through a list of all the things are preventing you from attaining your dream/goal, make a list of all the things that you already have that can help you reach that goal. Focus on the positive!!! Once you put your mind in a more positive state you will look at the world differently. You will start to see doors where there were walls. Where there were once dams, will appear a river of flowing ideas. Change your mind set and change your settings!!!
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!!!
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
Saturday, October 22, 2011
Secrets!!
People can keep secrets...if they cared too. But half the time (a biiigggg half) the secret is far more interesting shared than kept in the dark. Soooooo stop telling your own secrets. I mean is it even fair to expect someone else to keep your secret when it does not affect them, when you can not even keep it yourself?
I've had a diary since I was 10 and it is filled with secrets. My secret crushes from 11th grade, a good friends abortion, a guy who cheated, and know one will ever know! One of the things I love most about myself is my ability to keep people's secrets secret. When someone comes to you with something they do not want to share with everyone else, that means they trust you. I have had urges to tell things before, and that is when I turn to my journal. A journal will never tell a soul. (Sometimes it is good to use code names, just in case you have a nosy roommate.) And telling your diary will never be betraying someones trust.
Another method is to be honest. If you are bad at keeping secrets, or you are one that always seems to let things slip out of your mouth, let the person that is about to tell you something know. "I really am bad at keeping secrets. It is probably best I just do not know." Then you can avoid the betrayal all together. That person might still tell you, but they can no longer hold you accountable if their secret gets out. As always, knowing your strengths,weaknesses, and communication is key.
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
I've had a diary since I was 10 and it is filled with secrets. My secret crushes from 11th grade, a good friends abortion, a guy who cheated, and know one will ever know! One of the things I love most about myself is my ability to keep people's secrets secret. When someone comes to you with something they do not want to share with everyone else, that means they trust you. I have had urges to tell things before, and that is when I turn to my journal. A journal will never tell a soul. (Sometimes it is good to use code names, just in case you have a nosy roommate.) And telling your diary will never be betraying someones trust.
Another method is to be honest. If you are bad at keeping secrets, or you are one that always seems to let things slip out of your mouth, let the person that is about to tell you something know. "I really am bad at keeping secrets. It is probably best I just do not know." Then you can avoid the betrayal all together. That person might still tell you, but they can no longer hold you accountable if their secret gets out. As always, knowing your strengths,weaknesses, and communication is key.
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
Friday, October 21, 2011
Monday, October 17, 2011
Recycle! Save lives!
Today was my first time taking bottles to get recycled. I saved all the plastic bottles and cans in my home over the last month. I made 3 dollars! I know 3 dollars may not seem like much, but with how things are in the world just 3 dollars can make a difference.
I decided to give my three dollars to the World Food Program.( https://www.wfp.org/donate/fillthecup?icn=homepage-donate-cup&ici=big-button-link )With 1 dollar you can give four people a meal in Africa. So with that little 3 dollars I just helped save twelve people's lives. If I continue to simply save the bottles that I use on a regular bases, and donate the money towards the World Food Program, then in a year I can help save one-hundred forty-four people's lives. So maybe that 3 dollars is a little bigger than you thought. Always think of little ways to help others.
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
I decided to give my three dollars to the World Food Program.( https://www.wfp.org/donate/fillthecup?icn=homepage-donate-cup&ici=big-button-link )With 1 dollar you can give four people a meal in Africa. So with that little 3 dollars I just helped save twelve people's lives. If I continue to simply save the bottles that I use on a regular bases, and donate the money towards the World Food Program, then in a year I can help save one-hundred forty-four people's lives. So maybe that 3 dollars is a little bigger than you thought. Always think of little ways to help others.
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
Thursday, October 13, 2011
Ummm Do you have a problem with me? TELL ME!!!
I don't know if its Text messaging, Facebook, or Twitter, but why is everyone so scared to talk! Correction why is everyone so scared to talk to the one that they have a problem with. I have heard to many men and woman complain and complain and complain about someone that is not there. Every single time someone comes to me complaining I ask "Did you tell them?", and almost every time there answer is no. (Well actually its usually a jumble of words that make half sense, that can be summed up as NO.)
There's no point! Complaining to me about something does not do anything to help the situation. In fact, it just usually makes you more mad when you have to rethink about the things that that are annoying you. Have a problem? Fix it! It is that simple.
If it annoys you that someone always uses your stuff without asking, than tell them. 9 times out of 10 they'll begin to ask, and if they don't .... Delete!
It's that simple. I think the biggest reason people get scared to tell people they have a problem with them, is because they do not know how to let people go. Not everyone belongs in your life. And most of the time if you have to gossip and complain about someone than they don't.
Learn to bring you issues to light. Get it over with. The faster you tell the truth and confront an issue the faster you can find happiness.
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
You Don't have it? You Don't deserve it!
A career! A good man! A good woman! A huge bank account! A beautiful home!
Everything you want.... YOU DO NOT DESERVE!!!!!
You want a million dollars, but you are not willing to say no to the clubs and parties, and say yes to hard work. You want a good man but your not ready to cut off all your other men off. You not ready to say "Hey I have a boyfriend" to a sexy millionaire that has his eyes on you. Your are not ready to say "I am sorry my woman takes care of everything I need right now." You want to have the most amazing body, but you're not willing to workout at least an hour each day. You want more people to give you recognition for your efforts, but you never give them recognition. We all want it! The best! The most amazing things in life, but you can not expect something to come to you when you are not deserving of it.
For the first time in my life I am talking to one man. I finally realized... "if I want some one to give me their world I have to give them mine."
So many people say they want more, and that they are ready for more, but there actions will prove otherwise.
You can not ask the world for something that your not ready to give back yourself. If you want someone to give to you ... you better be ready to give that to the world. Otherwise... forget about it. How can you expect someone to help you when you would not even put your own hand out to help someone else. How can you expect to be the best artist and have number one records, when you are always in the club popping bottles and you do not even sit in the studio and dedicate your time to making music. Why would you expect a man/woman to give you all their time, affection, and love, when your are not giving the same thing in return.
This life is all about balance. What you put out into the world will come back to you. Karma!!!
So many people think about karma as a negative thing. Karma's only a bitch if you are!!! If you live your life as a good person and you seek to bring others up and make life's better, than someone will find you and want to make your life better.To many times we focus on the negative aspects of things and we forget to see the good!
If you want something, ANYTHING in life, it can be yours, but you must realize...You can not be a leader if all you do is follow. Meaning: The only way to be the person you want to be is to take the actions that they would take.
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
Everything you want.... YOU DO NOT DESERVE!!!!!
You want a million dollars, but you are not willing to say no to the clubs and parties, and say yes to hard work. You want a good man but your not ready to cut off all your other men off. You not ready to say "Hey I have a boyfriend" to a sexy millionaire that has his eyes on you. Your are not ready to say "I am sorry my woman takes care of everything I need right now." You want to have the most amazing body, but you're not willing to workout at least an hour each day. You want more people to give you recognition for your efforts, but you never give them recognition. We all want it! The best! The most amazing things in life, but you can not expect something to come to you when you are not deserving of it.
For the first time in my life I am talking to one man. I finally realized... "if I want some one to give me their world I have to give them mine."
So many people say they want more, and that they are ready for more, but there actions will prove otherwise.
You can not ask the world for something that your not ready to give back yourself. If you want someone to give to you ... you better be ready to give that to the world. Otherwise... forget about it. How can you expect someone to help you when you would not even put your own hand out to help someone else. How can you expect to be the best artist and have number one records, when you are always in the club popping bottles and you do not even sit in the studio and dedicate your time to making music. Why would you expect a man/woman to give you all their time, affection, and love, when your are not giving the same thing in return.
This life is all about balance. What you put out into the world will come back to you. Karma!!!
So many people think about karma as a negative thing. Karma's only a bitch if you are!!! If you live your life as a good person and you seek to bring others up and make life's better, than someone will find you and want to make your life better.To many times we focus on the negative aspects of things and we forget to see the good!
If you want something, ANYTHING in life, it can be yours, but you must realize...You can not be a leader if all you do is follow. Meaning: The only way to be the person you want to be is to take the actions that they would take.
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
Congratulations!!!!
Congratulations on passing that test, congratulations on starting your new business, congratulations on getting out of that negative relationship, congratulations on your new baby, congratulations on learning to cook, congratulations on your new apartment, congratulations on learning to laugh at yourself, congratulations on paying your car note, congratulations on you new husband/wife, congratulations on buying your new care, congratulations on finally starting that workout, congratulations on finding simplicity beautiful, congratulations on finding happiness, congratulations on making it work after all these years, congratulations on deciding to eat healthy, congratulations on learning to do your hair in that new style, congratulations on not giving into temptation, congratulations on learning to have fun, congratulations on deciding to quit gossiping, congratulations on deciding to be the best you! If no one has told you lately, or ever for that matter, I want to personal say "Congratulations , on EVERYTHING you have accomplished in your life so far. I am happy for you. And I will be here to congratulate the success' you have coming your way."
Let's start being happy for others people's success! Why be jealous? Them doing it just proves that its doable! They have just shown you the way! Keep working and soon you will have everything you have ever wanted too. Until that time comes be happy for others that have it now. They are your living proof, that you can have it tomorrow.
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
Let's start being happy for others people's success! Why be jealous? Them doing it just proves that its doable! They have just shown you the way! Keep working and soon you will have everything you have ever wanted too. Until that time comes be happy for others that have it now. They are your living proof, that you can have it tomorrow.
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
Monday, October 10, 2011
Will Smith shares his secrets of success
Will Smith speaking on what I mentioned in my last post! "There's no reason to have a plan B, because it distracts from plan A!"
There's no reason to have a plan B. It distracts from plan A!
Having a Plan B means you are just expecting plan A to fail!
So many people will argue with this and say "No, you need back up! Things don't always go as planned," and their right. But more times than none, the original plan did not go right because you wasted time trying to figure out what would happen if things did not go right, when you should have put that energy into making sure Plan A could not go wrong!
When it comes to goals and dreams, you need tunnel vision. Set your eyes to the positives. Focusing on all the ways your plan will not work, and what will happen if it does not go as scheduled are all negative way to think about a situation. You should focus your eyes on all the ways and of all the reasons things will work out just the way you planned.When you focus on the walls, you'll never find the door!
Unrealistic? I bet when the Wright brothers said they were going to build a plane people thought that was unrealistic. I bet Einsteins grade school teacher would think it was unrealistic to say that Einstein would be one of the greatest minds that has ever lived. If you tried and explain the internet, a cell phone, a car, or any of today's everyday items to someone from 1900 they would not believe you. They'd say it was unrealistic. Fake. But we all know it is real. So I dare you to be "unrealistic" Do the impossible. Because today's impossible is tomorrows "regular"
So stick to Plan A, and be flexible along the way. And remember a plan is just a guide line used to make it easier to accomplish your goal. Focus on the goal more than the plan, and see how fast all your plans and goals begin to manifest!
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
So many people will argue with this and say "No, you need back up! Things don't always go as planned," and their right. But more times than none, the original plan did not go right because you wasted time trying to figure out what would happen if things did not go right, when you should have put that energy into making sure Plan A could not go wrong!
When it comes to goals and dreams, you need tunnel vision. Set your eyes to the positives. Focusing on all the ways your plan will not work, and what will happen if it does not go as scheduled are all negative way to think about a situation. You should focus your eyes on all the ways and of all the reasons things will work out just the way you planned.When you focus on the walls, you'll never find the door!
Unrealistic? I bet when the Wright brothers said they were going to build a plane people thought that was unrealistic. I bet Einsteins grade school teacher would think it was unrealistic to say that Einstein would be one of the greatest minds that has ever lived. If you tried and explain the internet, a cell phone, a car, or any of today's everyday items to someone from 1900 they would not believe you. They'd say it was unrealistic. Fake. But we all know it is real. So I dare you to be "unrealistic" Do the impossible. Because today's impossible is tomorrows "regular"
So stick to Plan A, and be flexible along the way. And remember a plan is just a guide line used to make it easier to accomplish your goal. Focus on the goal more than the plan, and see how fast all your plans and goals begin to manifest!
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
Sunday, October 9, 2011
Find your Hero!!!
Lil Wayne speaks about giving credit, legacies, and having a hero!
Lil Wayne may ramble a little bit in this video but his message is amazing! Everyone should have a hero, and give credit were credit is due. So many people run around saying that there the best or their the coolest, but can not humble themselves and say thank you to the people that came before them and made it possible or inspired them to be who they are. You should always have someone to look up too. That will push you to be the better....the BEST you!!!
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
Saturday, October 8, 2011
Friday, October 7, 2011
It's Okay to Disappoint others! Just Don't Disappoint Yourself!
"Behind all our fears rests the key to all our happiness!"
So, get over your fear of disappointing others!
One of the biggest lies I hear people tell, and see people tweet is.... " I don't give a F$%# what anyone thinks of me!" That is nothing but a bunch of... LIES LIES LIES!!! Yes, I am calling you out!!!
I spent my freshman year of college in pure misery. I grew up in Elkhart, Indiana and the options there were pretty much college, babies, or both. So, I chose the first option, even though everything in my body was screaming Hollywood! I wanted to act, and have secretly (until now) practiced my acceptance speech for my Oscar in the mirror since I can remember. But, college was just what you were suppose to do, and I did not want to disappoint anyone.
My problem? I hated to disappoint people. I hated to think of my loved ones in a room saying "Ah, Lexsi, she had so much potential, but she ran off to Hollywood. What a disappointment." (I mean once I was in movies and all over billboards I knew they would look past that, but I was just thinking about their initial reactions. ; )
My senior year of high school I was getting recruited for Volleyball, Basketball and Track. I had played sports since I was three, and I remember sitting in my dorm room (College-prep school) after I had just got off the phone with a coach that was recruiting me, and I saying to myself. "It's time for something else. Sports are over for you, or at least it is time to put them on hold." And so I stopped answering calls, I sent out tons of "Thanks, but no thanks" letters, and I hung up my cleats, sneakers, knee pads, etc! My coaches and fans were shocked! Angry even! My first months of college I spent many nights going back and forth thinking. "Was this it, did I make the right decision to final be just a student?"
An than my second year of college, that little voice in my head started talking to me! (You know the normal voice in your head not the crazy ones), and then it started yelling at me!!!! "Get to LA, get to LA!" So, I could not fight it anymore, I had to do the same thing I had to do my senior year of high school. I had to disappoint some people. When I got here I questioned myself a little at first again. "Was this it, did I make the right decision to move all the way across the country, all by myself, to pursue my dreams?"
And the answer was and still is...Yes!
Right now I have aligned myself up perfectly with my dreams!
Although I have not accomplished all or really any of the major goals I have placed for myself in my life, I know that I am in the right place, around the right people, and it is only a matter of it becoming the right time. I am a contestant in the Miss California Pageant. Even though some of my team mates said "Pageants aren't for athletes" Ha! I want to be an actress, and I have Jamie Foxx as a mentor, helping me make decisions that are not only better for my career but better for my life. I also have Akon as someone that I can call on when I need advice for when I get discouraged. And none of that would have been possible had I been too scared to let people know I was going to have to let them down.
The crazy thing is, more times than none...letting someone down is just what you need to bring yourself up!
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat! : )
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
So, get over your fear of disappointing others!
One of the biggest lies I hear people tell, and see people tweet is.... " I don't give a F$%# what anyone thinks of me!" That is nothing but a bunch of... LIES LIES LIES!!! Yes, I am calling you out!!!
I spent my freshman year of college in pure misery. I grew up in Elkhart, Indiana and the options there were pretty much college, babies, or both. So, I chose the first option, even though everything in my body was screaming Hollywood! I wanted to act, and have secretly (until now) practiced my acceptance speech for my Oscar in the mirror since I can remember. But, college was just what you were suppose to do, and I did not want to disappoint anyone.
My problem? I hated to disappoint people. I hated to think of my loved ones in a room saying "Ah, Lexsi, she had so much potential, but she ran off to Hollywood. What a disappointment." (I mean once I was in movies and all over billboards I knew they would look past that, but I was just thinking about their initial reactions. ; )
Guess they were afraid I would go from this ....
to this...
My senior year of high school I was getting recruited for Volleyball, Basketball and Track. I had played sports since I was three, and I remember sitting in my dorm room (College-prep school) after I had just got off the phone with a coach that was recruiting me, and I saying to myself. "It's time for something else. Sports are over for you, or at least it is time to put them on hold." And so I stopped answering calls, I sent out tons of "Thanks, but no thanks" letters, and I hung up my cleats, sneakers, knee pads, etc! My coaches and fans were shocked! Angry even! My first months of college I spent many nights going back and forth thinking. "Was this it, did I make the right decision to final be just a student?"
An than my second year of college, that little voice in my head started talking to me! (You know the normal voice in your head not the crazy ones), and then it started yelling at me!!!! "Get to LA, get to LA!" So, I could not fight it anymore, I had to do the same thing I had to do my senior year of high school. I had to disappoint some people. When I got here I questioned myself a little at first again. "Was this it, did I make the right decision to move all the way across the country, all by myself, to pursue my dreams?"
And the answer was and still is...Yes!
Right now I have aligned myself up perfectly with my dreams!
Although I have not accomplished all or really any of the major goals I have placed for myself in my life, I know that I am in the right place, around the right people, and it is only a matter of it becoming the right time. I am a contestant in the Miss California Pageant. Even though some of my team mates said "Pageants aren't for athletes" Ha! I want to be an actress, and I have Jamie Foxx as a mentor, helping me make decisions that are not only better for my career but better for my life. I also have Akon as someone that I can call on when I need advice for when I get discouraged. And none of that would have been possible had I been too scared to let people know I was going to have to let them down.
The crazy thing is, more times than none...letting someone down is just what you need to bring yourself up!
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat! : )
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
Thursday, October 6, 2011
Week 1: Fitness Friday with Lexsi Lewis
Check out my first Fitness Friday Video!!! I will be posting the 2nd
one tomorrow!!! Getting tight! Getting right!!!
Just LOVE Me!!!
At times we can be: Lazy, Selfish, Hard-Headed, Combative,Violent, Careless, Annoying, Naive, Irresponsible,Childish, Late, Greedy, Neglectful, Mean, Jealous, Forgetful, Lost, Opinionated, Stubborn, Quarrelsome, Impatient, Unruly, Foolish,Crazy, Ignorant, Judgmental, and Jaded.
Sometimes we can be such: Brats, Dictators, Fools, Children, Devils, Nuisances, Bores, Prudes, Risks, Monsters, Simpletons, Bitches, Whores, Failures, Drunks, Tyrants, Divas, Addicts, Idiots, Smart-Asses,Witches, Couch-Potatoes, Nags, Hazard, Scareddy-Cats, Babies!
BUT we all go through it. We're not always our best selves. We are HUMAN and through all the negative we should all still.................................JUST LOVE!!!!!!!
That's just some food for thought, because I love to eat!
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
Sometimes we can be such: Brats, Dictators, Fools, Children, Devils, Nuisances, Bores, Prudes, Risks, Monsters, Simpletons, Bitches, Whores, Failures, Drunks, Tyrants, Divas, Addicts, Idiots, Smart-Asses,Witches, Couch-Potatoes, Nags, Hazard, Scareddy-Cats, Babies!
BUT we all go through it. We're not always our best selves. We are HUMAN and through all the negative we should all still.................................JUST LOVE!!!!!!!
That's just some food for thought, because I love to eat!
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx
Wednesday, October 5, 2011
You Do It Your Way & I'll Do It Mine...
This is my first post, so I just want to make a few things clear before I share with you the things I have learned in my life so far.
1.) No! I do not think I know everything, and I realize that everyday is filled with more challenges and lessons.
2) Yes, I am only 22! Do not let my limit in years mistake you for limititations in my mind. I have lived a complex life, and I am greatful that I am the type of person who learns fast and knows when the old ways are not working and it is time to grow.
3) I only have time for positivity!!! I can take criticism if it is meant to help me. I am open to suggestion on how I can improve what I am doing, BUT criticism for criticism's sake will be ignored, and if it is too rude it will be blocked!!
Now that we have the boring stuff out of the way! Hi, I am Lexsi. I was talking to my dad on the phone today, and we were having a discussion about the different ways that people think.. We stumbled upon one of the biggest lesson I have learned in my life thus far: You do things your way and I do things mine. The sooner you learn this fact and the sooner you accept this fact, the happier you will be.
Awhile back my room mate and I got into a disagreement. She felt that something I did was selfish, and she said "If I would have got that, than I would have shared with you" And I know she would have, because that is the type of person she is, BUT the keywords in her argument were the "I's". An argument would have been spared had we realized that we just do not all think the same way. She expected me to do something a certain way, because that is the way she would have done it. When I did it my way it made her feel dissapointment/anger/frustration, but all there should have been was acceptance. Acceptance to the fact that we do not do things the same way.
I have lived in 6 different states in the last 5 years, so I have met many types of people from many different backgrounds, and I am finally learning to accept that we all have our own habits, rituals, thinking processes, and values. When people do things that you do not agree with you should learn to be more understanding and not let them get to you.
There are some incidents when the things people do and how they do them clash with your life, so much so that it is just best they not be a part of it anymore. This gets difficult to accept, because many times these very people may be family members or other close loved ones. Saying you need space does not mean that you do not still love them. It just means you love yourself more and you can not allow certain things in your life that are causing pain or misery.
You have to let people be who they are, becuase trying to change them will not work. You will just gain frustration every time they dissapoint you by being themselves. If you do not like how someone does something let them know, and maybe it can be changed. Communication is key. But never be to scared to communicate that it is time to take that "key" to open a door else where!
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat! :)
Lexsi Lewis... Muah !!! xxx
1.) No! I do not think I know everything, and I realize that everyday is filled with more challenges and lessons.
3) I only have time for positivity!!! I can take criticism if it is meant to help me. I am open to suggestion on how I can improve what I am doing, BUT criticism for criticism's sake will be ignored, and if it is too rude it will be blocked!!
Now that we have the boring stuff out of the way! Hi, I am Lexsi. I was talking to my dad on the phone today, and we were having a discussion about the different ways that people think.. We stumbled upon one of the biggest lesson I have learned in my life thus far: You do things your way and I do things mine. The sooner you learn this fact and the sooner you accept this fact, the happier you will be.
Awhile back my room mate and I got into a disagreement. She felt that something I did was selfish, and she said "If I would have got that, than I would have shared with you" And I know she would have, because that is the type of person she is, BUT the keywords in her argument were the "I's". An argument would have been spared had we realized that we just do not all think the same way. She expected me to do something a certain way, because that is the way she would have done it. When I did it my way it made her feel dissapointment/anger/frustration, but all there should have been was acceptance. Acceptance to the fact that we do not do things the same way.
I have lived in 6 different states in the last 5 years, so I have met many types of people from many different backgrounds, and I am finally learning to accept that we all have our own habits, rituals, thinking processes, and values. When people do things that you do not agree with you should learn to be more understanding and not let them get to you.
- Do not take someones actions personal, because this is how they treat every single person.
- Do not make yourself a victim when in actuallity you are being treated the same as everyone else.
- Do not get mad at someone who always tells you No. They ALWAYS tell you know, so you should be mad at yourself to think the next time will be any different.
You have to let people be who they are, becuase trying to change them will not work. You will just gain frustration every time they dissapoint you by being themselves. If you do not like how someone does something let them know, and maybe it can be changed. Communication is key. But never be to scared to communicate that it is time to take that "key" to open a door else where!
Just some food for thought, because I love to eat! :)
Lexsi Lewis... Muah !!! xxx
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