A Prayer for your enemies!

There are these two guys in LA that just love my life, and they are always talking about me. I could not figure out why, when I do not even put myself around them. I also discovered there was nothing I could do to stop them. I stay clear of them as much as possible. They still talk. I yell at them. They still talk. I talk about them.  They still talk.  Ultimately no matter what I do they are going to talk. My last resort (should have been my first) was to pray. I created a prayer for these hateful people, and for anyone like them. I have actually seen them get some of what I hoped they would and I hope that it continues. If you have anyone that is always talking about you, or is just negative towards you I suggest you start using this prayer for them."

"Father I pray that you help those who can not rid themselves of their jealous ways, and  give them and all my enemies the things in life that they most desire, so they do not have to feel jealous when I receive their biggest desires. "

People are going to do whatever they want to do, so if someone decides they are not going to like you the only thing you can do is pray for them. 

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.

Lexsi Lewis... Muah !!! xxx

May All Your Christmas Wish's Come True!

Forget Humble, Be GREAT!!!

"People tell you to always be humble, humble, humble, but when's the last timeanyone told you to be amazing, great, or awesome?" - Kanye West

We live in a generation that is so politically correct, and so worried about offending someone that we have people tip toeing around being half the person they should be. This quote is not saying you should go run on stage and let the world have a piece of your mind, but it is saying STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT OTHERS WILL SAY AND GO DO THE IMPOSSIBLE!

I know so many people that if they were to go sit down with Michael Bay (Transformers Director) right now, and if he were to ask "Are you a good actor?", they would reply with "Ya, I'm okay." Okay? Michael bay is not going to put an "okay" actor in one of his movies. If he were to ask me I would say "Yes, I am amazing. Do you want to see a monologue?" You have to believe in yourself before anyone else does! And if you think you are only okay, than that is what you will be to the world. Saying that I am amazing is not being cocky. It is not like I just randomly stated "I'm great...", but if someone asks you about yourself you better let them know how fucking great you are! Stop under playing yourself! You have to be your own best salesmen!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah!!! xxx

Thank You

I know I have people that wish nothing but harm for me. Plenty of people do not care if I am alive tomorrow or not. Some people that really sit around waiting for me to fail.The better I get, the more I do not care. I would be a liar if I said when people make up lies and rumors that I do not care at all. Everyday I am getting better at ignoring those people, because I am learning to give them none of my attention and more importantly none of my thoughts. I am learning to focus on the people that want good for me, the people that look up to me, the people that want to see me shine. And I wanted to use today's blog to say thank you for helping me on my road to success, and to encourage you to say thank you to the people that have helped you on your road!

If you have ever prayed for me... Thank You!
If you have ever lent me 1 penny... Thank You!
If you have ever smiled at me when I was down...Thank You!
If you have ever talked me up when I was not around... Thank you!
If you have ever talked me up when I was around... Thank you!
If you have ever called me beautiful...Thank you!
If you have ever made me food when I was hungry...Thank you!
If you have ever given me helpful advice...Thank you!
If you have ever said "Girl I like your shoes"... Thank you!
If you have ever put up with me when I was being a bitch... Thank you!
If you have ever said I have a beautiful smile... Thank you!
If you have ever spread this blog to others...Thank you!
If you have ever consided me a friend...Thank you!
If you have ever been my shoulder to cry on... Thank you!
If you have ever believed in me... Thank you!
If you have every said I was funny... Thank you! (because I mean I am hilarious! ;)
If you have every done, said, thought good about me and want to see me shine...

Take a little time out of your day to tell people thank you that deserve it. That may be the one phrase that keeps them on your team!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah!!! xxx

Praise More Than You Criticize

OMG! SSSSSTTTTTTOOOOOOOPPPPPPP!!!!!!!

There has been one person in my life that I try and try to get along with, and there is always just something that pushes us apart! I JUST realized what it is. This person has the power to turn a positive situation into a negative one in .5 seconds!

My friend plays for the Ravens and they were playing the Chargers Sunday. So I told this person that lives in San Diego that I would be coming down for the weekend. The first thing they said was "I hate that you can only come down when your celebrity friends are here!" My first reaction was too not even respond. But I am a Leo, so I responded with. "I do not come to San Diego, just like you do not come to LA. I think its boring, and I do not want to use money for gas, or trains or whatever to go somewhere I do not want to be.It is that simple. So yes, an old friend that will give me tickets to a game is enough incentive for me to actually come down to SD, and I would like to see you while I am there." Maybe I am a man in this sense, but why could she not focus on the fact that I was coming and that I wanted to see her while I was there? Instead, she tried to make me feel bad, which made me not want to see her at all. I told her I was coming regardless and to hit me if she wanted to see me. (Of course she didn't hit me) (Ladies I swear this is probably why your man gets so frustrated with you too!) Stop twisting what could have been a happy good time, and turning it into "you're still not doing good enough"

A good friend of mine helped me out with this very same issue last year. Until this year my and my father had a very estranged relationship. I could at that point remember every single conversation I had every had with him, because they were so few and far between. I was at a place in my life where I finally accepted I wanted better for myself and I was going to have it, and I did not really need my father in my life. "I feel like he only wants to be around to celebrate, to show off at graduations." My friend replied with "So! Let him have that time. If that is the only time he wants to be around than so be it. Celebrate in those times, and let him have that time with you, so you can have that time with him. Do not look to him for more than that. If that is who he is than accept him for that. And cherish any moments you can have with him, because some people's parents are dead, and some people's parents will just never be there." He was right, and since than I have looked at my father in a new light. We started talked every few months, than every few weeks, and now every few days. I have a pretty close relationship with my dad now. I have secrets that I tell him, and he has secrets that he tells me. We are extremely alike. Sometimes are similarities almost scare me. (But I mean he is my father. Lol) But this relationship would have never been this good had I not learned to cherish the good about him, and ignore his faults.

I truly believe that he can sense that I truly accept him for who he is now, and that is why we can be so close. I no longer make him feel bad when we talk, we just talk. If there is a relationship that you are trying to save, look at yourself and count the amount of times you praise that person and compare that to the amount of times you criticize that person. If you want someone to stay in your life you should at LEAST be praising them two times the amount of times you are criticizing them. If  this is not the case, they probably will not be sticking around for long, family or not.

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!!!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Keep a Boss Mentality

You can be eight years old in a trailer park in Wisconsin and be a boss! You can be in a new city, have no friends, no job, five dollars to your name and still be a boss! You can be a stripper in a strip club and still be a boss! You can be driving around in a brand new Benz with 500,000 in your bank account and still be a bum! You can actually be the boss at your job, and still be a bum! Confused? Well it is simple. Being a boss has to do with your mentality not your situation.

So many people have multiple blessings that they have been given, but have no idea on how to capitalize on them. Yet, there are also the people that have nothing, and no one to help, but they have the ability to turn that nothing into something. The latter of the two is a boss! A boss is someone that will work there butts off day in and day out to get what they need to live. The people that are blessed to be born into wealthy families are sometimes looked at as bosses, but do not let their possessions trick you. Because cars, bags, shoes, and all the finer things in life are just symbols of a boss, not to be confused with the actual boss. A billionaire can go pick a crack head up off the street, take her shopping, buy her a car, go get her hair and nails done, and as much as she may look like a boss, she is still a crack head!

A boss is someone that knows anything and everything comes at a cost, and most times in this life that cost is their time, their energy. A boss can see the bigger picture and does not let their current position affect their future one. They demand respect, while still being respectful. They lead others to be their better selves.  They can see the light in the darkness, and they see the lessons in a failure. They get up eight times when knocked down seven. They move forward, they pursue their dreams, and they strive to reach the farthest limits of their god given potential!

A boss will posses all the material symbolisms of a boss (the cars, houses, clothes, etc.) if they wish too, but that is not every bosses plan. Next time you start to treat a person with a Louis bag better than someone with a purse from Ross, you may want to think twice. The second women may not have a Louis (yet) but she may have been the one who actually bought her bag, and did not have to do some scandalous deed to get it!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Tricks to Stay Happy

Most of my blogs talk about choosing to be happy. But if 5 bad things happen in a row, just saying I am happy probably wont really make you happy. Here are a few tricks I use to help me when things get bad.

1) Say "I'm still alive!" If I am alive than I am still suppose to be here. I am still suppose to accomplish something. I am still suppose to help.

2) Be thankful for what you do have. It may be something that you usually take for granted like a healthy body, a roof over your head, or having your mom to talk too. However, many people do not have the simple things so learn to truly appreciate them.

3) If you do not get something you really wanted realize it was not meant to be. It may be hard to accept this, but what you were asking for may be the exact thing that would end up blocking you from receiving your greatest blessing.

4)Patience!!! Learn it! Live it!!! Ya we all want a million dollars right now, but maybe you are not receiving it right now, because you are not responsible enough to handle that amount of money.

5) If you are unhappy where you are now, just look to your future. Your future is what you make it. It is everything that you think it will be. Look to it and create a future full of happiness and get excited that even though it is not here yet, it will be your life very soon.

6) The number one thing that keeps me happy is my ability to not see things as "bad". Two years ago I decided that I would never have a bad day again. I call them days of learning. Everything that happens to us that we do not want has a lesson to teach us. Do not focus on it being bad, search for the lesson. You'll be amazed how fast you can get over something when you no longer see it as something that is hurting your life, but see it as something that is helping you grow. Learn to see "bad things" as blessings, as a teacher. When you can embrace a misfortune as such, you will add many hours of happiness to your life.

Hope this helps! BE HAPPY!!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Choice, Chance, Change

Do you feel like you're stuck in Limbo? You know you want more out of life, but you do not have a clue what that "more" is? I know that feeling. Or maybe you do see the big picture and you know exactly where you want to be, but you have no idea on how to get there. Do not let that be your excuse as to why you never pursue your dreams! Become an innovator!


Most of the very successful people in our world never knew how they were going to do what they wanted to do. They just had this idea, (a vision) in their head as to where they would be. If you want your dreams,  want better for yourself, and happiness you must follow the 3 C's of life. Choice, Chance, Change!

Choice: If people are harassing you, you hate your job, you want to move, you want a new car; you have to make a choice. Do I stay at this job  because it is easy and familiar? Do I keep letting people speak to me however they want to? Do I stay in a place that I will never be able to call home? The first step to finding happiness and filling that void in your life (even if you do not know what that void is) is to make a choice TO BE happy. 

Chance: Stop at a gas station that you usually would not go to. Go to an audition that you may not usually think you would get the part for. Ask someone for help that you may never have thought would help you. Go do an activity that you've never tried before. TAKE A CHANCE! You are crazy to think you can keep doing the same thing and your life is going to start changing. Take a chance then you'll see the ...

Change: That new activity you started may be the new the outlet you needed to stay happy. Deciding to look for that new job  may result in your income jumping into a new tax bracket.  Deciding to see the glass as half full instead of half empty may be just the thing that turns all the walls that were blocking you into stair cases that are a breeze to walk over. 


If you make the choice, to take a chance, than things WILL change!


Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!


Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx 

Take your own Advice

"Girl, you should not be talking to someone that does not show you respect" "Stop eating all that junk food." "Stop being so negative." "You need to put yourself first!" Do you feel like you have all the answers when it comes to everyone else's life? If you can give the advice to a friend, you should make sure you are doing the same for yourself. 

It is always easier too see something when you are not apart of it, because you have the the ability to analyze the situation  from a birds eye view. When you are trying to make a decision for yourself  it is more difficult because you are in the center of the crossfire. You are at the front lines of the war. That is why we turn to others for advice. We think they can help us the most, but in all actuality you already know what you should do.

The most common words stated after a "word of advice" is given, has to be "I already know, that is exactly what I was thinking." JUST TAKE THE TIME TO TRUST YOUR OWN ADVICE ( Than you wont be spreading your business everywhere). You know what you need to be doing more than anyone.  Whatever your options are, you are the only person that has to live with the consequences, good or bad.

 

Getting advice from others is not always a bad thing. Some times people have more experience in a certain situation and going to them for a suggestion would be the best thing for you. But this is SOMETIMES. You should not be running to someone else every time things go wrong or get confusing in your life...ITS YOUR LIFE! Live it!!!!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ...Muah !!! xxx

Let Your Future Motivate You!

In one of my last blogs I talked about the only efficient way to loose weight is by eating right and working out on the regular, and my good friend (Ru this is for you) asked me how to stay motivated. I have been thinking about the best answer for the last few days, and I personally believe your future should be your biggest motivation on why to get better today!

Some people may get motivated to do better and be better because they have children, and they want better for both of their lives. Someone may get motivated by there hubby/wife or "boo thang". The "I do it for my man/woman"  type people. Some may be motivated by the people that already have the things that you want. The "if you can have it, I can have it too" type people. (I tend to be this from time to time.) It is good to look for motivation in everything, but I found these all to be temporary motivators. When that man that you were trying to look good for pisses you off...Motivation cancelled. You child just needs, needs, needs you, and is sucking you dry and you may begin to feel resentment and loose the motivation. The one thing that you can control is yourself, so YOUR FUTURE SHOULD BE YOUR MOTIVATION!

When you see what the rest of your life has in store for you, you better be smiling. If you want to be rich start on the path that will get you there today! The faster you start something the faster you will receive that in which you seek. If you see yourself with a bangin body, you have to start working off that "baby" fat today! If you want better women in your life, stop going to the club every night and get more involved in your church (not saying every women in church is a saint or every girl in the club is the devil...but odds are :) If you want to be smarter, truly commit your self to your school work and reading. Let your future be the gas petal to accomplishing your dreams, and start driving today

I am learning to not get so mad when things do not happen exactly how I saw them happening. It just was not meant to be. If I do not get booked for a roll that I wanted it is for that reason and that reason alone. I can truly see me doing all the things that I have ever wanted, and I know that they are inevitable because I have already seen my self do them all in my head. If you can think it, you can do it, and that right there motivates me!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Embrace Your Talents and stop being a hater!

I have always wished I had a voice like Mariah Carey and could bring a room to tears with the a couple high notes, or been fast enough to win a gold medal in the Olympics, or be educated enough to discover a cure for AIDS. But I can't now and the odds that I ever will are slim. But I am okay with that.

I am an entertainer. Naturally born. I can walk into a room and grab attention without even saying a word. I can make a scientist laugh and then go to the hood and have the "thugs" cracking up. I can write scripts. I can act. This is me! So I embrace those talents. 

Since moving to LA I think I have truly figured out the way "haters" are born. Haters soooo badly want these talents or careers that they were just not meant to have, and instead of reaching within themselves and embracing their God given talent (EVERY SINGLE PERSON HAS AT LEAST ONE!!!!) They react off of this jealousy that they have for individuals who possess the talents that they wish they had. 

HATERS: Reacting off of jealousy gets you nowhere!!!!! Now instead of investing your time in discovering what your God given talents actually are, you put all your energy into making another person 's life miserable. And the crazy thing is that person doesn't/shouldn't even care about you. They have the talent, they discovered their calling, you're already behind them, and they are looking towards their amazing futures. HATERS YOU DO NOT MATTER AND YOU ARE ONLY WASTING YOUR LIFE!

STOP!!! Dig deep within yourself. Have you always been a good listener? Become a counsler. Are you very persuasive? Go into sales. Are you good with computers? Go into Engineering. Are you good with children? Start a daycare. Discover what you are good at and spend your life doing something positive. Stop being a hater and sitting around obsessing over a life that you will never have!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

You're fat becuase you want to be!!

People lllloooovvvvveeeeee to complain about being fat, but hate to do anything about it! I don't get it.

If you don't want to be fat there are two simple solutions. Eat healthy. Work out. It is that simple.

Many people compliment me on my figure (not bragging just saying LOL) and I love it. And I work hard for it! I don't have great legs and a defined stomach from sitting on the couch and complaining about not being in shape. I get up every single day and do a couple hundred squats, push ups, run, and various other exercises. I want to love my body and when you work hard at something it is that much easier to love.

Eat better!!! You can't expect to lose weight when you are eating fried, salty, sugary foods. Those types of foods and weight loss do not mix. I usually make a list of foods that I crave during the week and on Friday's I celebrate a good week. (Fatty Fridays) It is good to reward yourself. But do not over indulge. It can be difficult at first but eventual those foods that you once thought you could not live without will not even smell right to you.

I can promise you two things. One, if you wake up and go workout and eat right you will lose weight. Two, if you do not eat right and workout you won't lose weight. If you want to change, you have to change your habits.

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.

Lexsi Lewis ...Muah !!! xxx

When 99 Things Are Bad Focus on the 1 Good!

Do not allow negativity to consume you!

Every single person in this world loves the way laughter feels. Being happy is a feeling that everyone searches for. Then why do we focus on the negative?

No matter how bad things get, there is ALWAYS something to be happy for. When multiple things go wrong it is human tendency to focus on those problems so much that we forget that there are actually good things in our lives too. How many times have you had an amazing day, where everything seems to have gone right, and than one bad thing comes along and you let that ruin your whole day? I am sure you do not know the number because you have allowed it to happen too many times. Stop giving negative things so much weight in your life. If 37 things go right, why focus on the one thing that went wrong? And even if 37 things go wrong, what good does it do you to focus solely on those 37 wrongs? NONE!

Put your attention on the things that give you happiness and you will have more happiness in your life. Worrying and focusing on the bad things does nothing. If someone spreads a rumor, and then you go around telling 10 people about how you are so mad about the rumor, then you are making yourself feel that pain 10 more times. What's the point? Accept that bad happens and look towards making it good again. Worrying and complaining gets you nothing but grief and frustration!

And in a world full of so many amazing things, receiving only grief and frustration does not make any sense!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx