A Prayer for your enemies!

There are these two guys in LA that just love my life, and they are always talking about me. I could not figure out why, when I do not even put myself around them. I also discovered there was nothing I could do to stop them. I stay clear of them as much as possible. They still talk. I yell at them. They still talk. I talk about them.  They still talk.  Ultimately no matter what I do they are going to talk. My last resort (should have been my first) was to pray. I created a prayer for these hateful people, and for anyone like them. I have actually seen them get some of what I hoped they would and I hope that it continues. If you have anyone that is always talking about you, or is just negative towards you I suggest you start using this prayer for them."

"Father I pray that you help those who can not rid themselves of their jealous ways, and  give them and all my enemies the things in life that they most desire, so they do not have to feel jealous when I receive their biggest desires. "

People are going to do whatever they want to do, so if someone decides they are not going to like you the only thing you can do is pray for them. 

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.

Lexsi Lewis... Muah !!! xxx

May All Your Christmas Wish's Come True!

Forget Humble, Be GREAT!!!

"People tell you to always be humble, humble, humble, but when's the last timeanyone told you to be amazing, great, or awesome?" - Kanye West

We live in a generation that is so politically correct, and so worried about offending someone that we have people tip toeing around being half the person they should be. This quote is not saying you should go run on stage and let the world have a piece of your mind, but it is saying STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT OTHERS WILL SAY AND GO DO THE IMPOSSIBLE!

I know so many people that if they were to go sit down with Michael Bay (Transformers Director) right now, and if he were to ask "Are you a good actor?", they would reply with "Ya, I'm okay." Okay? Michael bay is not going to put an "okay" actor in one of his movies. If he were to ask me I would say "Yes, I am amazing. Do you want to see a monologue?" You have to believe in yourself before anyone else does! And if you think you are only okay, than that is what you will be to the world. Saying that I am amazing is not being cocky. It is not like I just randomly stated "I'm great...", but if someone asks you about yourself you better let them know how fucking great you are! Stop under playing yourself! You have to be your own best salesmen!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah!!! xxx

Thank You

I know I have people that wish nothing but harm for me. Plenty of people do not care if I am alive tomorrow or not. Some people that really sit around waiting for me to fail.The better I get, the more I do not care. I would be a liar if I said when people make up lies and rumors that I do not care at all. Everyday I am getting better at ignoring those people, because I am learning to give them none of my attention and more importantly none of my thoughts. I am learning to focus on the people that want good for me, the people that look up to me, the people that want to see me shine. And I wanted to use today's blog to say thank you for helping me on my road to success, and to encourage you to say thank you to the people that have helped you on your road!

If you have ever prayed for me... Thank You!
If you have ever lent me 1 penny... Thank You!
If you have ever smiled at me when I was down...Thank You!
If you have ever talked me up when I was not around... Thank you!
If you have ever talked me up when I was around... Thank you!
If you have ever called me beautiful...Thank you!
If you have ever made me food when I was hungry...Thank you!
If you have ever given me helpful advice...Thank you!
If you have ever said "Girl I like your shoes"... Thank you!
If you have ever put up with me when I was being a bitch... Thank you!
If you have ever said I have a beautiful smile... Thank you!
If you have ever spread this blog to others...Thank you!
If you have ever consided me a friend...Thank you!
If you have ever been my shoulder to cry on... Thank you!
If you have ever believed in me... Thank you!
If you have every said I was funny... Thank you! (because I mean I am hilarious! ;)
If you have every done, said, thought good about me and want to see me shine...

Take a little time out of your day to tell people thank you that deserve it. That may be the one phrase that keeps them on your team!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah!!! xxx

Praise More Than You Criticize

OMG! SSSSSTTTTTTOOOOOOOPPPPPPP!!!!!!!

There has been one person in my life that I try and try to get along with, and there is always just something that pushes us apart! I JUST realized what it is. This person has the power to turn a positive situation into a negative one in .5 seconds!

My friend plays for the Ravens and they were playing the Chargers Sunday. So I told this person that lives in San Diego that I would be coming down for the weekend. The first thing they said was "I hate that you can only come down when your celebrity friends are here!" My first reaction was too not even respond. But I am a Leo, so I responded with. "I do not come to San Diego, just like you do not come to LA. I think its boring, and I do not want to use money for gas, or trains or whatever to go somewhere I do not want to be.It is that simple. So yes, an old friend that will give me tickets to a game is enough incentive for me to actually come down to SD, and I would like to see you while I am there." Maybe I am a man in this sense, but why could she not focus on the fact that I was coming and that I wanted to see her while I was there? Instead, she tried to make me feel bad, which made me not want to see her at all. I told her I was coming regardless and to hit me if she wanted to see me. (Of course she didn't hit me) (Ladies I swear this is probably why your man gets so frustrated with you too!) Stop twisting what could have been a happy good time, and turning it into "you're still not doing good enough"

A good friend of mine helped me out with this very same issue last year. Until this year my and my father had a very estranged relationship. I could at that point remember every single conversation I had every had with him, because they were so few and far between. I was at a place in my life where I finally accepted I wanted better for myself and I was going to have it, and I did not really need my father in my life. "I feel like he only wants to be around to celebrate, to show off at graduations." My friend replied with "So! Let him have that time. If that is the only time he wants to be around than so be it. Celebrate in those times, and let him have that time with you, so you can have that time with him. Do not look to him for more than that. If that is who he is than accept him for that. And cherish any moments you can have with him, because some people's parents are dead, and some people's parents will just never be there." He was right, and since than I have looked at my father in a new light. We started talked every few months, than every few weeks, and now every few days. I have a pretty close relationship with my dad now. I have secrets that I tell him, and he has secrets that he tells me. We are extremely alike. Sometimes are similarities almost scare me. (But I mean he is my father. Lol) But this relationship would have never been this good had I not learned to cherish the good about him, and ignore his faults.

I truly believe that he can sense that I truly accept him for who he is now, and that is why we can be so close. I no longer make him feel bad when we talk, we just talk. If there is a relationship that you are trying to save, look at yourself and count the amount of times you praise that person and compare that to the amount of times you criticize that person. If you want someone to stay in your life you should at LEAST be praising them two times the amount of times you are criticizing them. If  this is not the case, they probably will not be sticking around for long, family or not.

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!!!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Keep a Boss Mentality

You can be eight years old in a trailer park in Wisconsin and be a boss! You can be in a new city, have no friends, no job, five dollars to your name and still be a boss! You can be a stripper in a strip club and still be a boss! You can be driving around in a brand new Benz with 500,000 in your bank account and still be a bum! You can actually be the boss at your job, and still be a bum! Confused? Well it is simple. Being a boss has to do with your mentality not your situation.

So many people have multiple blessings that they have been given, but have no idea on how to capitalize on them. Yet, there are also the people that have nothing, and no one to help, but they have the ability to turn that nothing into something. The latter of the two is a boss! A boss is someone that will work there butts off day in and day out to get what they need to live. The people that are blessed to be born into wealthy families are sometimes looked at as bosses, but do not let their possessions trick you. Because cars, bags, shoes, and all the finer things in life are just symbols of a boss, not to be confused with the actual boss. A billionaire can go pick a crack head up off the street, take her shopping, buy her a car, go get her hair and nails done, and as much as she may look like a boss, she is still a crack head!

A boss is someone that knows anything and everything comes at a cost, and most times in this life that cost is their time, their energy. A boss can see the bigger picture and does not let their current position affect their future one. They demand respect, while still being respectful. They lead others to be their better selves.  They can see the light in the darkness, and they see the lessons in a failure. They get up eight times when knocked down seven. They move forward, they pursue their dreams, and they strive to reach the farthest limits of their god given potential!

A boss will posses all the material symbolisms of a boss (the cars, houses, clothes, etc.) if they wish too, but that is not every bosses plan. Next time you start to treat a person with a Louis bag better than someone with a purse from Ross, you may want to think twice. The second women may not have a Louis (yet) but she may have been the one who actually bought her bag, and did not have to do some scandalous deed to get it!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Tricks to Stay Happy

Most of my blogs talk about choosing to be happy. But if 5 bad things happen in a row, just saying I am happy probably wont really make you happy. Here are a few tricks I use to help me when things get bad.

1) Say "I'm still alive!" If I am alive than I am still suppose to be here. I am still suppose to accomplish something. I am still suppose to help.

2) Be thankful for what you do have. It may be something that you usually take for granted like a healthy body, a roof over your head, or having your mom to talk too. However, many people do not have the simple things so learn to truly appreciate them.

3) If you do not get something you really wanted realize it was not meant to be. It may be hard to accept this, but what you were asking for may be the exact thing that would end up blocking you from receiving your greatest blessing.

4)Patience!!! Learn it! Live it!!! Ya we all want a million dollars right now, but maybe you are not receiving it right now, because you are not responsible enough to handle that amount of money.

5) If you are unhappy where you are now, just look to your future. Your future is what you make it. It is everything that you think it will be. Look to it and create a future full of happiness and get excited that even though it is not here yet, it will be your life very soon.

6) The number one thing that keeps me happy is my ability to not see things as "bad". Two years ago I decided that I would never have a bad day again. I call them days of learning. Everything that happens to us that we do not want has a lesson to teach us. Do not focus on it being bad, search for the lesson. You'll be amazed how fast you can get over something when you no longer see it as something that is hurting your life, but see it as something that is helping you grow. Learn to see "bad things" as blessings, as a teacher. When you can embrace a misfortune as such, you will add many hours of happiness to your life.

Hope this helps! BE HAPPY!!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Choice, Chance, Change

Do you feel like you're stuck in Limbo? You know you want more out of life, but you do not have a clue what that "more" is? I know that feeling. Or maybe you do see the big picture and you know exactly where you want to be, but you have no idea on how to get there. Do not let that be your excuse as to why you never pursue your dreams! Become an innovator!


Most of the very successful people in our world never knew how they were going to do what they wanted to do. They just had this idea, (a vision) in their head as to where they would be. If you want your dreams,  want better for yourself, and happiness you must follow the 3 C's of life. Choice, Chance, Change!

Choice: If people are harassing you, you hate your job, you want to move, you want a new car; you have to make a choice. Do I stay at this job  because it is easy and familiar? Do I keep letting people speak to me however they want to? Do I stay in a place that I will never be able to call home? The first step to finding happiness and filling that void in your life (even if you do not know what that void is) is to make a choice TO BE happy. 

Chance: Stop at a gas station that you usually would not go to. Go to an audition that you may not usually think you would get the part for. Ask someone for help that you may never have thought would help you. Go do an activity that you've never tried before. TAKE A CHANCE! You are crazy to think you can keep doing the same thing and your life is going to start changing. Take a chance then you'll see the ...

Change: That new activity you started may be the new the outlet you needed to stay happy. Deciding to look for that new job  may result in your income jumping into a new tax bracket.  Deciding to see the glass as half full instead of half empty may be just the thing that turns all the walls that were blocking you into stair cases that are a breeze to walk over. 


If you make the choice, to take a chance, than things WILL change!


Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!


Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx 

Take your own Advice

"Girl, you should not be talking to someone that does not show you respect" "Stop eating all that junk food." "Stop being so negative." "You need to put yourself first!" Do you feel like you have all the answers when it comes to everyone else's life? If you can give the advice to a friend, you should make sure you are doing the same for yourself. 

It is always easier too see something when you are not apart of it, because you have the the ability to analyze the situation  from a birds eye view. When you are trying to make a decision for yourself  it is more difficult because you are in the center of the crossfire. You are at the front lines of the war. That is why we turn to others for advice. We think they can help us the most, but in all actuality you already know what you should do.

The most common words stated after a "word of advice" is given, has to be "I already know, that is exactly what I was thinking." JUST TAKE THE TIME TO TRUST YOUR OWN ADVICE ( Than you wont be spreading your business everywhere). You know what you need to be doing more than anyone.  Whatever your options are, you are the only person that has to live with the consequences, good or bad.

 

Getting advice from others is not always a bad thing. Some times people have more experience in a certain situation and going to them for a suggestion would be the best thing for you. But this is SOMETIMES. You should not be running to someone else every time things go wrong or get confusing in your life...ITS YOUR LIFE! Live it!!!!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ...Muah !!! xxx

Let Your Future Motivate You!

In one of my last blogs I talked about the only efficient way to loose weight is by eating right and working out on the regular, and my good friend (Ru this is for you) asked me how to stay motivated. I have been thinking about the best answer for the last few days, and I personally believe your future should be your biggest motivation on why to get better today!

Some people may get motivated to do better and be better because they have children, and they want better for both of their lives. Someone may get motivated by there hubby/wife or "boo thang". The "I do it for my man/woman"  type people. Some may be motivated by the people that already have the things that you want. The "if you can have it, I can have it too" type people. (I tend to be this from time to time.) It is good to look for motivation in everything, but I found these all to be temporary motivators. When that man that you were trying to look good for pisses you off...Motivation cancelled. You child just needs, needs, needs you, and is sucking you dry and you may begin to feel resentment and loose the motivation. The one thing that you can control is yourself, so YOUR FUTURE SHOULD BE YOUR MOTIVATION!

When you see what the rest of your life has in store for you, you better be smiling. If you want to be rich start on the path that will get you there today! The faster you start something the faster you will receive that in which you seek. If you see yourself with a bangin body, you have to start working off that "baby" fat today! If you want better women in your life, stop going to the club every night and get more involved in your church (not saying every women in church is a saint or every girl in the club is the devil...but odds are :) If you want to be smarter, truly commit your self to your school work and reading. Let your future be the gas petal to accomplishing your dreams, and start driving today

I am learning to not get so mad when things do not happen exactly how I saw them happening. It just was not meant to be. If I do not get booked for a roll that I wanted it is for that reason and that reason alone. I can truly see me doing all the things that I have ever wanted, and I know that they are inevitable because I have already seen my self do them all in my head. If you can think it, you can do it, and that right there motivates me!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Embrace Your Talents and stop being a hater!

I have always wished I had a voice like Mariah Carey and could bring a room to tears with the a couple high notes, or been fast enough to win a gold medal in the Olympics, or be educated enough to discover a cure for AIDS. But I can't now and the odds that I ever will are slim. But I am okay with that.

I am an entertainer. Naturally born. I can walk into a room and grab attention without even saying a word. I can make a scientist laugh and then go to the hood and have the "thugs" cracking up. I can write scripts. I can act. This is me! So I embrace those talents. 

Since moving to LA I think I have truly figured out the way "haters" are born. Haters soooo badly want these talents or careers that they were just not meant to have, and instead of reaching within themselves and embracing their God given talent (EVERY SINGLE PERSON HAS AT LEAST ONE!!!!) They react off of this jealousy that they have for individuals who possess the talents that they wish they had. 

HATERS: Reacting off of jealousy gets you nowhere!!!!! Now instead of investing your time in discovering what your God given talents actually are, you put all your energy into making another person 's life miserable. And the crazy thing is that person doesn't/shouldn't even care about you. They have the talent, they discovered their calling, you're already behind them, and they are looking towards their amazing futures. HATERS YOU DO NOT MATTER AND YOU ARE ONLY WASTING YOUR LIFE!

STOP!!! Dig deep within yourself. Have you always been a good listener? Become a counsler. Are you very persuasive? Go into sales. Are you good with computers? Go into Engineering. Are you good with children? Start a daycare. Discover what you are good at and spend your life doing something positive. Stop being a hater and sitting around obsessing over a life that you will never have!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

You're fat becuase you want to be!!

People lllloooovvvvveeeeee to complain about being fat, but hate to do anything about it! I don't get it.

If you don't want to be fat there are two simple solutions. Eat healthy. Work out. It is that simple.

Many people compliment me on my figure (not bragging just saying LOL) and I love it. And I work hard for it! I don't have great legs and a defined stomach from sitting on the couch and complaining about not being in shape. I get up every single day and do a couple hundred squats, push ups, run, and various other exercises. I want to love my body and when you work hard at something it is that much easier to love.

Eat better!!! You can't expect to lose weight when you are eating fried, salty, sugary foods. Those types of foods and weight loss do not mix. I usually make a list of foods that I crave during the week and on Friday's I celebrate a good week. (Fatty Fridays) It is good to reward yourself. But do not over indulge. It can be difficult at first but eventual those foods that you once thought you could not live without will not even smell right to you.

I can promise you two things. One, if you wake up and go workout and eat right you will lose weight. Two, if you do not eat right and workout you won't lose weight. If you want to change, you have to change your habits.

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.

Lexsi Lewis ...Muah !!! xxx

When 99 Things Are Bad Focus on the 1 Good!

Do not allow negativity to consume you!

Every single person in this world loves the way laughter feels. Being happy is a feeling that everyone searches for. Then why do we focus on the negative?

No matter how bad things get, there is ALWAYS something to be happy for. When multiple things go wrong it is human tendency to focus on those problems so much that we forget that there are actually good things in our lives too. How many times have you had an amazing day, where everything seems to have gone right, and than one bad thing comes along and you let that ruin your whole day? I am sure you do not know the number because you have allowed it to happen too many times. Stop giving negative things so much weight in your life. If 37 things go right, why focus on the one thing that went wrong? And even if 37 things go wrong, what good does it do you to focus solely on those 37 wrongs? NONE!

Put your attention on the things that give you happiness and you will have more happiness in your life. Worrying and focusing on the bad things does nothing. If someone spreads a rumor, and then you go around telling 10 people about how you are so mad about the rumor, then you are making yourself feel that pain 10 more times. What's the point? Accept that bad happens and look towards making it good again. Worrying and complaining gets you nothing but grief and frustration!

And in a world full of so many amazing things, receiving only grief and frustration does not make any sense!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Boss Chick!

Aspire to inspire before you expire

Do it in heels and trendy attire

Demand respect in just your walk

Speak with you actions don't live in talk

Put out your hand to help those in need

Get over your failures aim to succeed

Build a team that will have your back

To cover your faults or things that you lack

Aim to be happy and spread good word

Because to live in misery is just absurd

Workout your body and eat good too

Fitness is key when perfecting the "You"

Say i'm sorry and admit if you're wrong

Just end the issue don't string it along

Compliments should be followed by thank you

Your humbleness can make you or brake you 

If you do all the things that you want to do

CONGRATULATIONS, you're a Boss Chick too!

Happy!

If I am crazy, a little insane,
I blame it on you, you're stuck in my brain
I close my eyes, I see your face
And since you're not here there's no better place
Except in my heart but that is a given
You've made me better, kept me from sinnin

You motivate me and push me to grow
Make me work hard and earn my own dough
I have your support in all that I do
My mind never stops, a miniature you
So when I get down this gives me some hope
I'm on the right path, so with time I can cope

But you're always so busy, cant always be here
Sometimes I get mad and scream its unfair
I wish I could have you every day
With the business we're in it can't be that way
But regardless of this I still want to say
I love you my King, you make me happy each day!


Lexsi ... Muah !!! xxx

Your Definition of LOVE!

I know tooooooooo many people in relationships where their partner does not support their dreams, makes them cry, and/or abuses them mentally or physically. They all have the same reason for staying... "Love"
I am here to let you know that is not love! It is actually nothing more than a bad habit!

Many people think it is just easier to stay in these relationships, because they are so use to this person. Their partner knows them already, and they do not want to have to go through the whole process of getting to know someone new. Another thing I hear people in these situation say is they know things can be better. " When we started dating he was so amazing, he use to do this, he use to do that" Excuses! Excuses! You're holding on to something that NO LONGER EXISTS.

1) It is easier to stay, but it is not better too! If you keep holding on to something that you know is bringing you down, that does not make you happy, than you are keeping your self low. You are allowing negativity to takeover, and not giving happiness a space to enter your life.

2) STOP LIVING IN THE PAST!!! Everyday you grow and change, and so does every one else. Sadly, everyone does not always change for the best. Accept it!

3) Who cares if they cry!!! They have made you cry! Now that you're ready to leave they cry and you can not go? They did not care when you cried.. Why should you care when they do? People that know that they do not deserve you may come to you crying and saying everyone always gives up on them and you are the only one they can depend on. Ike said the exact same thing to Tina Turner. If you really want to help them, you should let them learn that the only person that they should be able to depend on is themselves, and than leave.

Love is suppose to be the happiest feeling you can feel towards someone. You get happy, just because they are happy. You cringe at the thought of them getting hurt. You get excited when they start to grow. You do not want to fight and argue, because you do not want to waste one second in misery. If you're not happy, it's not love, it's a bad habit.

The new years coming, and it is time to start thinking of your resolutions. You made need to drop a habit from your heart!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

I have changed... Thank God!!!

When people tell me "You have changed"  I say "Thank you" and that is where the conversation ends.

The Lexsi that stands here today is a million times better than the one that was here 5 years ago, and is nowhere near as amazing as the Lexsi of tomorrow, so it always makes me laugh inside when people try and tell me I have changed like it is a bad thing. I was raised in lil' ol' Elkhart, Indiana, and I did not have much.  When I was young I moved a lot, and my sophomore year of high school robbing banks and getting pregnant were more popular than graduating and going to college. That was my environment! Than my junior year of high school I was blessed to move away and go to a college prep school in Maryland. (Thank you Hunter family!) I went from seeing a fight everyday at school to girls riding horses. Half of the girls had never seen a fight but had been to rehab. I no longer had to worry about someone trying to fight me over nothing but I did have to learn to say no to the temptation of hard drugs.

I have been an athlete since I could walk, so drugs were never something I ever consider. But seeing some of the highest performing students and athletes take them, it made you wonder if they were really so bad. CHANGE. I had usually focused on avoiding fights (I was a part of a team all the time, and I never wanted to risk my position on the team), but now my attention went to avoiding drugs.Than, another move.

Tennessee. I have never heard the "N" word so much! People think Indiana is so racist, but in my 15 years of living there I only have had two incidents that really stick out to me as racist. Elkhart was a pretty mixed small city, (Well as far as black, whites, Mexicans) and my mother is white so it was just not something I really dealt with. But in Tennesee I heard little girls say "I hate black, I had refs blow their whistles if I would just go near the ball, while they would let me get smacked and scratched. I had a hard time in Tennessee, because in the other places I live I could avoid stuff (fights & drugs), but I could not avoid being half black. (Nor would I have wanted too) But I did change. I stopped being a people pleaser. I learned the first level of putting myself first. I finally understood that you can not please everybody. That sometimes people just are not going to like you. Than, another move.

College...in south Florida. Freshmen year brought my first real relationship, even though it was a terrible one. That probably brought my biggest change. I feel like I officially stopped being a girl than, and became a young woman. I learned that I would do crazy things for the one I love, BUT that I would never hold on to something that would threaten my life. I learned my limit. ( A very important lesson)

My Sophomore year I learned my favorite life lesson. (How to be happy) I had always found ways to have fun here and there, but I don't think I truly knew happiness until that spring semester of my second year of college. I had a guy that really cared about me, I had the best friends a girl could have, we were in Miami having the time of our lives with the amazing artist like Ne-Yo, Chris Brown, Lil Wayne, and the list goes on, school covered basically all living expenses, and my family and the fitness center kept money in my pockets. I had no worries. I have always been an optimistic person, but that time of my life was verification that being positive was worth it. I know there are plenty of people out there that have never experienced happiness in every aspect of there life at once, so I know I was blessed to have done so at such a young age. Than, another move.

Hollywood! The list of lessons I have learned here could and would go on and on for days, so I wont even begin to list them. But, I have defiantly let my self love grow, learned that there are some bad people in the world that just do not want good for other people, learned about paying bills, and learned that my mind and my thoughts control my destiny.

I learned to bite my tongue, I have learned to trust my instincts, I have learned to separate from people that are not good for me, I have learned that I can have true happiness, I have learned that I can truly be whatever I put my mind too, I have learned to befriend most any type of person, I have learned to put my self first without being selfish, I have changed!

Everyday some part of you should change. You have to learn something new everyday. The people that say "you've changed" like its a bad thing are usual the people in your life that you realized you do not need there in the first place. If you are always complaining about me and I hear about it, of course how I interact with you is going to change.

Sometimes you can become a worse person and it is always good to look in the mirror and make sure the refection you are looking at today is better than the one from the day before. If it is worse than work towards making it better everyday, but if it is better...stay in that path, and every time someone says you have changed smile and say "Thank you"

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Mauh !!! xxx

The Key to Happiness? Be happy!

I was talking to my friend the other day, and she was telling me how unhappy she was and wanted to know my secret to happiness. It's simple....December 31st, 2009 I decide that from that day on I would be nothing but happy.

Saying it is one thing, believing it is the hard part...the important part.

You really have to put the thought in your head that you deserve nothing but happiness. Once you begin to focus on happiness you will attract situations and things to your life that make you happy.

Another important component to staying in a happy mindset is to be thankful for all the things you have. Stop focusing on what you do not have. If you always focus on what you don't have you're putting yourself in a mind set of disappointment.  If all you have is one shirt and a pair of sandals, learn to love those items. Be happy to have that pair of shoes, because you could have less. Remember you could always have less than you have now...ALWAYS! Be grateful!

You also need to realize you and you alone are in complete control of your happiness. Do not wait for someone else to give you something, do not expect someone else to give you happiness. Find happiness in yourself. Go back to you childhood and think about the things that made you happy. Being outside, playing sports, drawing... Do not forget the things that use to make you smile. A few months ago I became a little unmotivated. I could not get out of this funk, but than I started playing basketball again, and it reminded me of all my prior accomplishments. More importantly it reminded me what it felt like to be happy.

Start smiling at strangers, show those teeth, say good morning/afternoon/night . The littlest things can create your greatest happiness.

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Embrace Your Imperfections to become Perfect!

Stop hiding behind this person that you think you are suppose to be and just embrace who you are!!!

Think of your idol, your real world hero, your mentor. Now picture them having sex..... 98% of the time I bet you can't  You have them on this pedestal or in this bubble, that they are perfect, that they do no wrong, but guess what....the people that you look up to are just as human as you are.

Almost everyone in America has had premarital sex, tried some form of drugs, lied to their best friend, cheated on their girlfriend, cheated on a test, picked on someone, thrown trash out the window, stolen something....the list goes on. People try so hard to hide their faults, but dont realize that their just living a normal life. People make stupid mistakes everyday....EVERY minute! So learn to embrace them. Learn from that bad experience and than move on. Dont go hide in a corner and start calling yourself "the dumbest person alive." You're not...you're human.

Now I'm not saying to go ahead and do whatever you want and to not let bad decisions affect you, because they should. You should take every "bad" experience and flip it into a "learning" experience. Admit your faults and try and right your wrongs (Karma will if you dont), but just dont let it keep you down. You can never redo that part of you life again so the faster you accept that you are blessed to be you (flaws and all) the happier and more fortunate you will be.

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Look in the Mirror

Sometimes you need to go up to a mirror and have a serious conversation with yourself.

Go ahead. Turn on the lights. Look at yourself for several moments.... now just talk to yourself.

Why? Think I am crazy?

Well, first of all I am not crazy, I am a little goofy but perfectly sane. But whats the point of this? To see if you even like yourself. 

When you look at yourself in the mirror do you like what you see? Or are your arms to big, butt to baggy, and belly to round? Do you like your hairstyle, is  your skin bad? Now that is the easy part. What about when you talk to yourself. Do you even care what you are talking about? Do you even have anything to talk about? Do you like what you see? Do you like what you hear? 

This year I realized that I would complain about people not answering their phones, but I was  the worst person when it came to answering my own. It is ssssssoooooo easy to see the flaws in other people, but pretty difficult for most people to see the flaws in themselves. That is why I recommend the excerise.

Go stand in the mirror. Have a conversation with yourself. 

Do this on the regular, if you do not like what you see than change it. If you do not enjoy your conversation, get more hobbies. You should always be proud of how you look and who you are. I am not saying that you have to be a size 3 or a nun, but you should be able to look at yourself and smile...the most genuine smile that you have.

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Dreams!!!

Dream.... Dream BIG!!!!

If you have a dream and already know how to accomplish it, than you are dreaming to small. A dream, wish, goal should be great. The best dreams are the ones that many would call impossible. 

Never let where you  are now, stop you from working towards where you will be tomorrow. Never let money be the reason you are not doing what you want. Where there is a will, there is a way, and you would be surprised who will open their arms on your journey to success and aid you once they see you are prepared and motivated. So get PREPARED!! Get MOTIVATED!!!

STOP WITH THE EXCUSES!!!! Instead of going through a list of all the things are preventing you from attaining your dream/goal, make a list of all the things that you already have that can help you reach that goal. Focus on the positive!!! Once you put your mind in a more positive state you will look at the world differently. You will start to see doors where there were walls. Where there were once dams, will appear a river of flowing ideas.  Change your mind set and change your settings!!!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!!!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Secrets!!

People can keep secrets...if they cared too. But half the time (a biiigggg half) the secret is far more interesting shared than kept in the dark. Soooooo stop telling your own secrets. I mean is it even fair to expect someone else to keep your secret when it does not affect them, when you can not even keep it yourself?

I've had a diary since I was 10 and it is filled with secrets. My secret crushes from 11th grade, a good friends abortion, a guy who cheated, and know one will ever know! One of the things I love most about myself is my ability to keep people's secrets secret. When someone comes to you with something they do not want to share with everyone else, that means they trust you. I have had urges to tell things before, and that is when I turn to my journal.  A journal will never tell a soul. (Sometimes it is good to use code names, just in case you have a nosy roommate.) And telling your diary will never be betraying someones trust.

Another method is to be honest. If you are bad at keeping secrets, or you are one that always seems to let things slip out of your mouth, let the person that is about to tell you something know. "I really am bad at keeping secrets. It is probably best I just do not know." Then you can avoid the betrayal all together. That person might still tell you, but they can no longer hold you accountable if their secret gets out. As always, knowing your strengths,weaknesses, and communication is key.

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.
Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Simple Fact!

Recycle! Save lives!

Today was my first time taking bottles to get recycled. I saved all the plastic bottles and cans in my home over the last month. I made 3 dollars! I know 3 dollars may not seem like much, but with how things are in the world just 3 dollars can make a difference.

I decided to give my three dollars to the World Food Program.( https://www.wfp.org/donate/fillthecup?icn=homepage-donate-cup&ici=big-button-link )With 1 dollar you can give four people a meal in Africa. So with that little 3 dollars I just helped save twelve people's lives. If I continue to simply save the bottles that I use on a regular bases, and donate the money towards the World Food Program, then in a year I can help save one-hundred forty-four people's lives. So maybe that 3 dollars is a little bigger than you thought. Always think of little ways to help others.

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Ummm Do you have a problem with me? TELL ME!!!

I don't know if its Text messaging, Facebook, or Twitter, but why is everyone so scared to talk! Correction why is everyone so scared to talk to the one that they have a problem with. I have heard to many men and woman complain and complain and complain about someone that is not there. Every single time someone comes to me complaining I ask "Did you tell them?", and almost every time there answer is no. (Well actually its usually a jumble of words that make half sense, that can be summed up as NO.)

There's no point! Complaining to me about something does not do anything to help the situation. In fact, it just usually makes you more mad when you have to rethink about the things that that are annoying you. Have a problem? Fix it! It is that simple. 

If it annoys you that someone always uses your stuff without asking, than tell them. 9 times out of 10 they'll begin to ask, and if they don't .... Delete!

It's that simple. I think the biggest reason people get scared to tell people they have a problem with them, is because they do not know how to let people go. Not everyone belongs in your life. And most of the time if you have to gossip and complain about someone than they don't.

Learn to bring you issues to light. Get it over with. The faster you tell the truth and confront an issue the faster you can find happiness.

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

You Don't have it? You Don't deserve it!

A career! A good man! A good woman! A huge bank account! A beautiful home!

Everything you want.... YOU DO NOT DESERVE!!!!!

You want a million dollars, but you are not willing to say no to the clubs and parties, and say yes to hard work. You want a good man but your not ready to cut off all your other men off. You not ready to say "Hey I have a boyfriend" to a sexy  millionaire that has his eyes on you. Your are not ready to say "I am sorry my woman takes care of everything I need right now." You want to have the most amazing body, but you're not willing to workout at least an hour each day. You want more people to give you recognition for your efforts, but you never give them recognition.  We all want it! The best! The most amazing things in life, but you can not expect something to come to you when you are not deserving of it.

For the first time in my life I am talking to one man. I finally realized... "if I want some one to give me their world I have to give them mine."

So many people say they want more, and that they are ready for more, but there actions will prove otherwise.

You can not ask the world for something that your not ready to give back yourself. If you want someone to give to you ... you better be ready to give that to the world. Otherwise... forget about it. How can you expect someone to help you when you would not even put your own hand out to help someone else. How can you expect to be the best artist and have number one records, when you are always in the club popping bottles and you do not even sit in the studio and dedicate your time to making music. Why would you expect a man/woman to give you all their time, affection, and love, when your are not giving the same thing in return.

This life is all about balance. What you put out into the world will come back to you. Karma!!!

So many people think about karma as a negative thing. Karma's only a bitch if you are!!! If you live your life as a good person and you seek to bring others up and make life's better, than someone will find you and want to make your life better.To many times we focus on the negative aspects of things and we forget to see the good!

If you want something, ANYTHING in life, it can be yours, but you must realize...You can not be a leader if all you do is follow. Meaning: The only way to be the person you want to be is to take the actions that they would take.

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Help End Hunger!!!

Please donate!!! 1$ can save 4 lives!!! https://whr.wfpaltruist.org/

Congratulations!!!!

Congratulations on passing that test, congratulations on starting your new business, congratulations on getting out of that negative relationship, congratulations on your new baby, congratulations on learning to cook, congratulations on your new apartment, congratulations on learning to laugh at yourself, congratulations on paying your car note, congratulations on you new husband/wife, congratulations on buying your new care, congratulations on finally starting that workout, congratulations on finding simplicity beautiful, congratulations on finding happiness, congratulations on making it work after all these years, congratulations on deciding to eat healthy, congratulations on learning to do your hair in that new style, congratulations on not giving into temptation, congratulations on learning to have fun, congratulations on deciding to quit gossiping, congratulations on deciding to be the best you! If no one has told you lately, or ever for that matter, I want to personal say "Congratulations , on EVERYTHING you have accomplished in your life so far. I am happy for you. And I will be here to congratulate the success' you have coming your way."

Let's start being happy for others people's success! Why be jealous? Them doing it just proves that its doable! They have just shown you the way! Keep working and soon you will have everything you have ever wanted too. Until that time comes be happy for others that have it now. They are your living proof, that you can have it tomorrow.

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Will Smith shares his secrets of success

Will Smith speaking on what I mentioned in my last post! "There's no reason to have a plan B, because it distracts from plan A!"

There's no reason to have a plan B. It distracts from plan A!

Having a Plan B means you are just expecting plan A to fail!

So many people will argue with this and say "No, you need back up! Things don't always go as planned," and their right. But more times than none, the original plan did not go right because you wasted time trying to figure out what would happen if things did not go right, when you should have put that energy into making sure Plan A could not go wrong!

When it comes to goals and dreams, you need tunnel vision. Set your eyes to the positives. Focusing on all the ways your plan will not work, and what will happen if it does not go as scheduled are all negative way to think about a situation. You should focus your eyes on all the ways and of all the reasons things will work out just the way you planned.When you focus on the walls, you'll never find the door!

Unrealistic? I bet when the Wright brothers said they were going to build a plane people thought that was unrealistic. I bet Einsteins grade school teacher would think it was unrealistic to say that Einstein would be one of the greatest minds that has ever lived. If you tried and explain the internet, a cell phone, a car, or any of today's everyday items to someone from 1900 they would not believe you. They'd say it was unrealistic. Fake. But we all know it is real. So I dare you to be "unrealistic" Do the impossible. Because today's impossible is tomorrows "regular"

So stick to Plan A, and be flexible along the way. And remember a plan is just a guide line used to make it easier to accomplish your goal. Focus on the goal more than the plan, and see how fast all your plans and goals begin to manifest!



Just some food for thought, because I love to eat.

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Find your Hero!!!

Lil Wayne speaks about giving credit, legacies, and having a hero!

http://www.worldstarhiphop.com/videos/video.php?v=wshhrL26VSV7Cf67qnBD

Lil Wayne may ramble a little bit in this video but his message is amazing! Everyone should have a hero, and give credit were credit is due. So many people run around saying that there the best or their the coolest, but can not humble themselves and say thank you to the people that came before them and made it possible or inspired them to be who they are. You should always have someone to look up too. That will push you to be the better....the BEST you!!!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Haters!!!

You keep us MOTIVATED! 

Lexsi Lewis ... Mauh!!! xxx

Fitness Friday w/ Lexsi Lewis: Week 2

It's Okay to Disappoint others! Just Don't Disappoint Yourself!

"Behind all our fears rests the key to all our happiness!"

So, get over your fear of disappointing others!

One of the biggest lies I hear people tell, and see people tweet is.... " I don't give a F$%# what anyone thinks of me!" That is nothing but a bunch of... LIES LIES LIES!!! Yes, I am calling you out!!!

I spent my freshman year of college in pure misery.  I grew up in Elkhart, Indiana and the options there were pretty much college, babies, or both. So, I chose the first option, even though everything in my body was screaming Hollywood! I wanted to act, and have secretly (until now) practiced  my acceptance speech for my Oscar in the mirror since I can remember. But, college was just what you were suppose to do, and I did not want to disappoint anyone.

My problem? I hated to disappoint people. I hated to think of my loved ones in a room saying "Ah, Lexsi, she had so much potential, but she ran off to Hollywood. What a disappointment." (I mean once I was in movies and all over billboards I knew they would look past that, but I was just thinking about their initial reactions. ; )

Guess they were afraid I would go from this ....

to this...

My senior year of high school I was getting recruited for Volleyball, Basketball and Track. I had played sports since I was three, and I remember sitting in my dorm room (College-prep school) after I had just got off the phone with a coach that was recruiting me, and I saying to myself. "It's time for something else. Sports are over for you, or at least it is time to put them on hold." And so I stopped answering calls,  I sent out tons of "Thanks, but no thanks" letters, and I hung up my cleats, sneakers, knee pads, etc! My coaches and fans were shocked! Angry even! My first months of college I spent many nights going back and forth thinking.   "Was this it, did I make the right decision to final be just a student?"

An than my second year of college, that little voice in my head started talking to me! (You know the normal voice in your head not the crazy ones), and then it started yelling at me!!!! "Get to LA, get to LA!" So, I could not fight it anymore, I had to do the same thing I had to do my senior year of high school. I had to disappoint some people. When I got here I questioned myself a little at first again. "Was this it, did I make the right decision to move all the way across the country, all by myself, to pursue my dreams?"

And the answer was and still is...Yes!

Right now I have aligned myself up perfectly with my dreams!

Although I have not accomplished all or really any of the major goals I have placed for myself in my life, I know that I am in the right place, around the right people, and it is only a matter of it becoming the right time. I am a contestant in the Miss California Pageant. Even though some of my team mates said "Pageants aren't for athletes" Ha! I want to be an actress, and I have Jamie Foxx as a mentor, helping me make decisions that are not only better for my career but better for my life. I also have Akon as someone that I can call on when I need advice for when I get discouraged. And none of that would have been possible had I been too scared to let people know I was going to have to let them down.

The crazy thing is, more times than none...letting someone down is just what you need to bring yourself up!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat! : )

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

Week 1: Fitness Friday with Lexsi Lewis

Check out my first Fitness Friday Video!!! I will be posting the 2nd

one tomorrow!!! Getting tight! Getting right!!!

Just LOVE Me!!!

At times we can be: Lazy, Selfish, Hard-Headed, Combative,Violent, Careless, Annoying, Naive, Irresponsible,Childish, Late, Greedy, Neglectful, Mean, Jealous, Forgetful, Lost, Opinionated, Stubborn, Quarrelsome, Impatient, Unruly, Foolish,Crazy, Ignorant, Judgmental, and Jaded.

Sometimes we can be such: Brats, Dictators, Fools, Children, Devils, Nuisances, Bores, Prudes, Risks, Monsters, Simpletons, Bitches, Whores, Failures, Drunks, Tyrants, Divas, Addicts, Idiots, Smart-Asses,Witches, Couch-Potatoes, Nags, Hazard, Scareddy-Cats, Babies!

BUT we all go through it. We're not always our best selves. We are HUMAN and through all the negative we should all still.................................JUST LOVE!!!!!!!

That's just some food for thought, because I love to eat!

Lexsi Lewis ... Muah !!! xxx

You Do It Your Way & I'll Do It Mine...

This is my first post, so I just want to make a few things clear before I share with you the things I have learned in my life so far.

1.) No! I do not think I know everything, and I realize that everyday is filled with more challenges and lessons.

2) Yes, I am only 22! Do not let my limit in years mistake you for limititations in my mind. I have lived a complex life, and I am greatful that I am the type of person who learns fast and knows when the old ways are not working and it is time to grow.

3) I only have time for positivity!!! I can take criticism if it is meant to help me. I am open to suggestion on how I can improve what I am doing,  BUT criticism for criticism's sake will be ignored, and if it is too rude it will be blocked!!

Now that we have the boring stuff out of the way! Hi, I am Lexsi. I was talking to my dad on the phone today, and we were having a discussion about the different ways that people think.. We stumbled upon one of the biggest lesson I have learned in my life thus far: You do things your way and I do things mine.  The sooner you learn this fact and the sooner you accept this fact, the happier you will be.

 Awhile back my room mate and I got into a disagreement. She felt that something I did was selfish, and she said "If I would have got that, than I would have shared with you" And I know she would have, because that is the type of person she is, BUT the keywords in her argument were the "I's".  An argument would have been spared had we realized that we just do not all think the same way. She expected me to do something a certain way, because that is the way she would have done it. When I did it my way it made her feel dissapointment/anger/frustration, but all there should have been was acceptance. Acceptance to the fact that we do not do things the same way.

I have lived in 6 different states in the last 5 years, so I have met many types of people from many different backgrounds, and I am finally learning to accept that we all have our own habits, rituals, thinking processes, and values. When people do things that you do not agree with you should learn to be more understanding and not let them get to you.

•  Do not take someones actions personal, because this is how they treat every single person.
• Do not make yourself a victim when in actuallity you are being treated the same as everyone else.
• Do not get mad at someone who always tells you No. They ALWAYS tell you know, so you should be mad at yourself to think the next time will be any different.

Humans are creatures of habit. So if your spouse always leaves the toilet seat up, do not get mad when you go to bathroom and the toilet seats up. Having the toilet seat up is not an issue for him it is an issue for you. Just learn to put the toilet seat down on your own.

There are some incidents when the things people do and how they do them clash with your life, so much so that it is just best they not be a part of it anymore. This gets difficult to accept, because many times these very people may be family members or other close loved ones. Saying you need space does not mean that you do not still love them. It just means you love yourself more and you can not allow certain things in your life that are causing pain or misery.

You have to let people be who they are, becuase trying to change them will not work. You will just gain frustration every time they dissapoint you by being themselves. If you do not like how someone does something let them know, and maybe it can be changed. Communication is key. But never be to scared to communicate that it is time to take that "key" to open a door else where!

Just some food for thought, because I love to eat! :)

Lexsi Lewis... Muah !!! xxx